Hi Sweet Friends,
It’s crazy the way women compare themselves to other women. Simply walking into a room full of people is sometimes all it takes. We compare hairstyles, waist sizes, education levels, fashion senses, career successes, you name it. Often this happens without our ever giving words to it all—we subconsciously compare and figure out where we rank. It’s ridiculous. And it grieves the Lord.
When we’re busy comparing ourselves to the Heather Homemakers, Brittany Brilliants, Lexie Lovelies or Gwen Gardeners, we downsize ourselves in our own eyes. We unintentionally remove our own unique giftings and value and place ourselves on shaky, dangerous ground.
Your Week 6 assignment is to…read Chapter 42, My Comparison Issues. As you’ve probably noticed, we won’t be reading the book in order—instead, I will be picking and choosing from among my favorite chapters (and that’s sort of hard!). But I’m praying and trusting God to lead us.
Chapter 23 Excerpt from Prayers for a Woman's Soul
(Page 202) …Whether we compare our bodies, our families, our jobs, our callings, or where we are on the journey, the temptation can be so subtle we barely recognize it. But it’s dangerous ground we would be wise to avoid.
This week’s verse:
Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. (Galatians 6:4)
This week’s questions:
- Have you recently made yourself miserable by comparing yourself to someone else?
- Are you willing to ask God to help you resist comparing yourself so that you can become free to love and appreciate exactly the way God made you?
Half of the battle with comparison is simply being aware that we do it. So this week, let’s pray that God will reveal to us when we subtly (and sometimes not so subtly!) compare ourselves to others. Once we recognize that we’re comparing ourselves, we must resist, shift our focus, and repeat to ourselves “God, you did not call me to be her. You called me to be me.”
The other half of the battle is learning to love and appreciate ourselves just the way God made us. Each one of us is a beautiful, hand-made, unique woman who is loved, valued, and precious to our heavenly Father. We each possess God-given unique gifts, talents, and strengths. When we know and accept that, it becomes easier to accept ourselves. Which makes it easier to resist comparison.
I will be praying for you all week long as together you pray about your comparison issues. Meet me on the Prayers for a Woman's Soul community Facebook Page any time during the week and let me know your thoughts and experiences.
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