A Prayer to Calm Your Hot-Mess Emotions {Give Away!}

Isn't it weird that one minute you can be perfectly at ease, and the next moment you're facing an emotional freak-out? 

We all have them—difficult or unexpected moments when our emotions start to freak out, hijack our brains, leaving us shaking, or making us feel completely overwhelmed.

The truth is each of us face very real challenges. And it's helpful to remember we’re human, and this side of eternity our imperfect minds and emotions will sometimes be a challenge. And that can make us feel like a hot mess and a half. 

Which is where prayer comes in.

Two keys that always help me are simple and free (thank God!) The next time your emotions start to spike, take a deep breath and pray. Deep breathing calms our nervous systems, and prayer changes everything. (And pssst…a cup of chamomile tea is always a good option!)

Here is a simple prayer to get you started:

Lord,
Help me. Calm my heart, calm my mind, and calm my emotions.
Jesus You are my peace. Be my peace right now, right in the middle of my emotional frazzle. Fill my mind and emotions with Your peace.
I invite You into my situation, Lord. Be here with me. Give me wisdom. Give me grace. Give me wise and encouraging words, not destructive words.
And Lord, I'm grateful that You understand my emotions. Please help me not to allow myself to be hijacked by them, but give me the ability to hold myself calm. Calm me and my emotions with Your very real presence. 
In the awesome name of Jesus, Amen.
One last thing. Below is my go-to verse when I’m on the brink. It reminds me that Jesus freely offers me His peace, and that I don’t have to allow myself to be troubled. THAT is something I'm still learning! 


Peace I leave with you; My [own] peace I now give and bequeath to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid. [Stop allowing yourselves to be agitated and disturbed; and do not permit yourselves to be fearful and intimidated and cowardly and unsettled.] (John 14:27) (AMPC)

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You ARE a Woman of Destiny

Remember Gideon? In the book of Judges, chapter six, we witness an angelic visit. Remarkably, the angel first announced who Gideon was in God’s sight, much to his surprise. In spite of the fact that Gideon was hiding down inside a winepress to sift wheat—this out of necessity, as the Midianites had destroyed their crops, and precious little food was available. Sifting wheat in a winepress may have been the prudent thing to do, but it certainly wasn’t the bravest. Yet God saw Gideon’s potential and spoke to it.
And the Angel of the Lord appeared to him and said to him, The Lord is with you, you mighty man of [fearless] courage (Judges 6:12 ampc).
The angel then gave Gideon his marching orders. Scary marching orders. And Gideon could hardly believe his ears. Gideon’s response? “But…how can I?” (verse 15).
Gideon’s question was the very same question I have asked more than once.
Isn’t that the very question that pounds against our hearts when we sense God speaking scary words of promise? Words that require effort and cooperation and faith on our part, especially when we don’t understand and when every cell in our bodies trembles with fear?
“How can I _____ when ______?”
Yet God saw something in Gideon. He saw his potential. And I’m convinced He sees the potential in us too. If only we will rise to the occasion.
We may not defeat the Midianites, but God still desires to accomplish specific, awesome things both in us and through us. Things for which He has uniquely equipped us. Things that may not always appear grand or flashy, yet if He is the Author and Establisher of those things, we can be assured they hold eternal value.
Everything God accomplishes in and through us matters. It all holds value and divine purpose. Even the nonglamorous things. The day-to-day things. The things we do that nobody ever sees. But God sees. And when we do each thing unto Him, He is not only honored, but greatly pleased.
God uses who He wants…He doesn’t look for the talented so much as the willing. In both Gideon He saw a willing heart. Not a perfect heart, but a humble and willing heart. And with those two qualities, God can do anything. Those two ingredients allow God to fill in every blank.
God chose us, equipped us with specific gifts, and desires for us to produce fruit. Eternal fruit. Jesus has literally appointed us to produce lasting fruit using the gifts God has entrusted to us. He is interested in results that remain—results that matter in light of eternity. In addition, we are expected to use well what we are given, or it will be taken from us.
To those who use well what they are given, even more will be given, and they will have an abundance. But from those who do nothing, even what little they have will be taken away (Matthew 25:29).
I want to be a faithful steward of what God has entrusted to me. I want to wisely use what I have been given, and I want to hear, “Well done, my good and faithful servant” (Matthew 25:23).
How about as we ponder and pray, we ask God to enable us to recognize and accept the gifts He has given us? How about if we choose to accept the gifts—no matter how surprising—and commit to doing our part?
What if, instead of agreeing with the enemy that there’s just no way, we link arms with Jesus, Who is the Way? What if we determine to believe God is not only able to reveal our destinies, but to equip us in whatever way He sees fit and in His perfect timing? What if we step forward trusting Him instead of doubting ourselves?
Let’s lay our humble and willing hearts before Him—those two beautiful ingredients with which Almighty God can supersede all we could ever dare to hope, ask, or imagine. Let’s acknowledge that we are women in possession of divinely bestowed gifts and talents, with specific assignments. And let’s dare to believe that we are, in fact, determined women of destiny.

This is an adapted excerpt from my new book, From Hot Mess to Blessed. For more encouragement on your God-given destiny, and to receive hope that will enable you to embrace God’s promises for you, get your copy HERE or HERE
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A Hot Mess and Her Mouth

Wouldn't it be great if we all said the exact right thing all the time...and kept our mouths closed when appropriate? I am a long way from that goal (remember? I'm a hot mess...), but it's still not only my goal, but my heart's desire! I long to honor God with my mouth.

That's why I thought it would be good to share these verses along with a specific prayer. Because prayer for our mouths (what we do AND don't say) is a very good and necessary thing!

One of the keys to guarding our mouths is knowing Scripture, which acts like an inner restraint in our hearts, and we know that out of the heart the mouth speaks (Matthew 12:34).

Here are three verses that I need to tape to my forehead. *grin*

The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. (Proverbs 12:18)

Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. (Ephesians 4:29)

If you claim to be religious but don’t control your tongue, you are fooling yourself, and your religion is worthless. (James 1:26)

These verses are a lot to live up to, and I know I certainly fall short. But we have to trust that as we grow in Christ, as He increases and we decrease (John 3:30), and as we learn to walk in the Spirit and not in the flesh (Galatians 5:16), we can grow in this area.

A Prayer for Your Mouth

Lord, my heart’s desire is to control my mouth. I confess that I sometimes say things I shouldn’t—things I regret. Will you please help me to grow and mature in this area? Set a guard over my mouth. Keep watch over the door of my lips. Keep me aware that You hear every word I speak. Help me to control my tongue. May no reckless words come out of my mouth; but may my tongue bring healing. Let my words be good and helpful and encouraging. May the words I speak honor You and bless those around me. In Jesus’s name, Amen.

7 Promises for a Hot Mess {Give-Away!}

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Years ago as I sat in my worn prayer chair, crying out for God to change me, He gave me a glimpse of the future me—radiant, emotionally whole and stable and confident—far from the hot mess that I was at the time. Not that I have arrived. I happen to hold an honorary degree in hot mess and take it from me, apart from the Lord’s power at work in us, that doesn’t change.

A holy promise was conceived in my heart that morning in my prayer chair. The promise of how far God could take a woman if she dared to believe that He was greater than past hurts, past screwups, past foolish choices, and zero confidence; that He could somehow take all the fragments of a tragically broken heart and life and make them whole. It seemed outrageous to believe that a hot mess like me could be made whole, but everything in me ached to be whole and free.

Over the years as I have chosen to believe God and cooperate with His process (and it is a process, not a *poof* you're perfect thing), He has brought freedom and transformation that I scarcely knew was possible (and He continues to work in me). And Jesus, who raises the dead to life and frees the captive, will do the same for you.

Below are seven Scripture-based promises. Each one of these promises represents a chapter in my JUST RELEASED TODAY!! book, From Hot Mess to Blessed (actually there are twelve chapters in the book, which also includes questions for personal reflection or group study). My hope is that these promises and verses will not only encourage your heart, but help you to trust that hope and promise exist for you.

Whatever you’re walking through and whatever state your soul is in, know this: God is for you. He loves you. He is with you. And if you will dare to hold on to Him, believe Him, trust His Word and cry out in prayer, He will move on your behalf.



7 Promises for a Hot Mess

When your heart and emotions are battered and broken: 
I will make you whole - "And he said unto her, Daughter, thy faith hath made thee whole; go in peace, and be whole of thy plague." (Mark 5:34)

When you don’t understand who you really are: 
I will give you a new identity - This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! (2 Corinthians 5:17)

When hard things keep happening: 
I will work all things for good - And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to His purpose. (Romans 8:28)

When you feel inadequate for the task ahead: 
I will enable you - For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him. ( Philippians 2:13)

When you feel unimportant or invisible: 
You are significant - O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I'm far away.  (Psalm 139:1-2)

When you feel unloved: 
I will give you my unfailing love - Surely your goodness and unfailing love will pursue me all the days of my life,and I will live in the house of the Lord forever. (Psalm 23:6)

When you have no dreams or feel uncertain about your dreams: 
You are a woman of destiny - For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. (Ephesians 2:10)




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A Celebration! {Hot Mess Give-Away!}


Sweet friends, celebrate with me – today my new book, From Hot Mess to Blessed releases!

If you’ve ever felt like a hot mess (and who of us hasn’t?), then you will love this book. It’s filled with holy hope to enable you embrace God’s promises. Authentic, deeply personal, and encouraging, From Hot Mess to Blessed will help you dare to believe. And isn’t that what a hot mess needs? To believe God’s promises, to believe that He is at work, moving in our hearts and lives, doing what only He can do, smack in the middle of our hardest moments, our meltdowns, our freak-outs, and our disappointments.

Be sure to visit my Free Resources page for your FREE From Hot Mess to Blessed Printable Prayer Guide and FREE From Hot Mess to Blessed Printable Promise Cards! 

Here’s what a couple of people are saying about From Hot Mess to Blessed:


If you’ve ever thought you were too messed up to do anything important for God, read this book.  Julie Gillies writes with vulnerability, honesty, and with a deep commitment to helping women find answers in God’s Word. If life has thrown you a few curves and you’ve wondered how to move forward with confident faith and renewed joy, this is the book for you.  Read it for yourself and then take a group of friends through it.  The study questions for each chapter will take you deeper into God’s truth and the list of scriptures at the end will give you solid footing for a life of blessing!  I highly recommend this book! –Carol Kent, Speaker and Author, When I Lay My Isaac Down (NavPress)



Julie Gillies writes in the fullness of grace and truth, and offers hope for any one wondering if they are too much of a mess for God to bother with. In From Hot Mess to Blessed, Julie peels back the lies to get to our hearts’ greatest needs – and then introduces us to the One who can meet them completely. If I could put this book in the hands of every woman, I would. I would look her in the eyes and say “Read this, believe it and keep it handy for the rest of your life!”–Glynnis Whitwer, Author of 10 books, including Doing Busy Better, Exec Director of Communications Proverbs 31 Ministries


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