Have you ever felt like you just couldn’t be yourself; you had to fake it?
I sure have; it began as an insecure teen girl. I learned performance got me attention. With parents, coaches, teachers or pastors, acting well made them happy with me. But I wasn’t happy with me. I just couldn’t keep up with trying to be perfect; at times I felt like performing would swallow me up. Sometimes I felt like the girl grew up, but the insecurity didn’t.
Back then, I felt sure that when Jesus looked at me, He was disappointed in me. Truth be told, He wasn’t disappointed in me. In fact, I already had God’s approval and it had nothing to do with me.
Can you relate? Maybe on the outside you appear to have it all together, but really things aren’t so together. Do you find yourself each day performing just to keep up with the expectations of others? Only now it is a husband, children, and employers; just like the teen girl, we just want to be accepted, approved and affirmed.
Friend, Jesus knows. He sees. He knows our inside and our out; but it doesn’t change the way He feels about us. It doesn’t alter or erase His love!
Read the first part of Psalm 139 out loud, listening to Jesus speak to you. Go ahead – read it out loud. You need to hear this truth.
“You have searched me, Lord,
and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue
you, Lord, know it completely.”
He makes it clear; Jesus loves every part of you. He knows everything you do, everything you’ve done and everything you even think about doing. Yet it doesn’t change the way He feels about you. You see, when He sees you, He sees one whose sins He washed away because of the price He paid on the cross. He now sees you as clean.
Even knowing our deepest thoughts, our darkest deeds, and our disappointing attitudes doesn’t change His loving thoughts toward us.
Here was my struggle: I knew that He loved me unconditionally, but I thought He would approve of me more if I did everything right. It does bring joy to His heart when we obey and He wants us to because it points others to Him. But, our actions and who we are do not affect His love for us. Our actions do not make Him love us more; nor do they make Him love us less.
So go ahead; be completely honest with Him about your fears, dreams, hurts, and hopes. He wants you to because He deeply cares about all aspects of what makes up the person called you.
How would your life have been different if you had gotten at 13 that Jesus loved you just the way you were? What confidence would that have brought to your life? What decisions would His love have empowered you to make? What decisions would you have had the strength to say “no” to?
This is the reason I wrote “His Revolutionary Love”. His love, the love that fills the love gap that no man ever can, is exactly the love that brings that confidence. This is the love I want to pass on to the next generation.
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Oh, how I could have benefited from a book like this when I was a teenager! It would have prevented a lot of heartache in my life. I'm so grateful my teen daughter has read it, and I encourage you to get this book not only for your tween or teen daughter/granddaughter/friend, but for yourself! I read and loved this book!
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