It was one of those weeks. An unexpected issue left me confused about how to respond, and thrust me into an emotional tailspin. And I had a hard time extracting myself.
Sometimes we’re forced into situations that demand a response, but the answer isn’t always clear. It’s up to us to prayerfully consider:
Is this a moment to fight—set a healthy boundary, respectfully refuse to give in, or continue believing in spite of how things appear?
Or is this a moment to surrender— relinquish our desire, let it go, or accept that the final outcome might not be our preference?
When you’re struggling to figure out whether you should stand up or let go, these simple steps will guide you through the process:
Step away from the situation. Even if only momentarily. Take a short walk, stare out the window, take some deep breaths. The point is to disengage your emotions so you can think clearly.
Confide in a trusted friend. This does not mean complain to lots of people. Share your heart and concerns with a wise friend who will keep your situation private. The opportunity to vent and hear an objective viewpoint is priceless.
Quiet Your Heart. This is a hard one when emotions get involved. But it’s the only way to hear that still, small Voice. Strive to forgive, be objective, and really press in to God.
Pray, pray, pray. Cry out to God—ask Him to enable you to clearly perceive His will, settle your emotions, and give you clarity and wisdom on how to proceed.
Use wisdom. When a clear answer isn’t forthcoming, think the situation through knowing and believing that God supplies wisdom when we ask Him.
Don’t move until you sense God’s peace. Often situations create pressure on us, but my response barometer is always peace. This often requires a strategy of waiting. I refuse to move forward or make decisions apart from God’s peace, and so should you.
My answer turned out to be a combination of fighting and letting go. Once I sensed God’s peace, I used His wisdom to clearly and rationally explain my point of view. Then I let go, trusting that ultimately, God was in control.
Because He is.
As you follow these steps, strive to get to the place where you possess peace regardless of which moment this turns out to be for you—a moment to fight, or a moment to surrender. And remember that either way, God loves you, His grace truly is sufficient, and His plans are far better than ours.